1/16/08

The Paradise of Grace

INVITATION
Speaking of gifts you can never pay back... In 2002, as Ed and I were healing from a tiring year of loss and illness, good friends asked us to 'rest up' with them for two weeks in the South Pacific. As this trip was 10 times beyond our budget (they desired to gift us), we thought briefly about letting our pride get in the way - but, thankfully, the fun factor won out. It strikes me that surrendering to Grace is a similar concept. Imagine it's you...

APPROACH
In a fluke collapse of all your good reasons and better judgment, you say 'yes' and find yourself floating above what has been made possible by someone else's sacrifice on your behalf. You can see it, but you're not there yet. It's a glimmering jewel in a priceless azure setting. As you descend toward it, tears well up when you realize you've done nothing to deserve this and can do nothing to pay it back. Yet, it is a reality. Try as you might, you simply cannot calculate the difference between what you've earned and what you're being given.

TRANSPORT
After all that's been done for you, surely it's only right that they would offer a canoe or a row boat for this final stretch. It's a short jaunt to your destination, and only fair you should have some part in working your way there. But 'fairness' is not the style of the giver. There's a padded speed boat with spectacular views from every angle. The driver honors you with wreaths of flowers. You are a VIP guest, your passage pre-paid by someone who's gone before you. And sweet air and sunshine brush against your face as you freely ride, propelled by an engine you do not own and cannot fuel.

WELCOME
On the dock, you are warmly greeted by beautiful smiles, warm washcloths for your face and sweet music for your spirit. Then, ushered up a manicured cobble-stone path into an exquisite, castle-looking enclosure where you are seated on comfortable couches and given a colorful, refreshing drink. Your luggage is carefully moved to the bungalow specially prepared for you while care is taken to learn your shoe size, food preferences and other unique details, to best accommodate your recreational and culinary needs. Someone is anticipating how you, specifically, might be offered gifts that lead to your maximum joy.

BELONGING
You are escorted to a luxurious bungalow where you find everything you've ever needed or wanted for rest and fun. A sliding glass door opens to a generous deck and you realize your dwelling is completely over the turquoise, 86 degree water. Through the glass floor beneath the coffee table, there are fish in every color waiting for you to come and play. There are no "NO JUMPING" signs - not that you can see, anyway. Instead of rushing by, the afternoon stretches out as you relax in the sun and discover colors in fish, shells and coral you never thought were possible. Large, friendly stingrays engulf you, and you feel no fear - only joy. You understand that this was created for you to enjoy. Your being able to revel in it was made possible by generosity you cannot afford. This fact makes you feel full - not obligated - because your benefactor takes delight in your fullness.

INHERITANCE
After a long afternoon of play, you explore your surroundings, looking out over the entire island from a specially-created niche at the top. Because there are so few inhabitants, it is as if this place belongs specially to you, in a way. And, in a way, it does - not because you earned it (how could you ever earn such a thing?) - but by the generosity of the giver. He has shared everything with you - what's his is yours, and he's held nothing back. You are there under his name and reservation, and he delights in freely giving you everything that's called 'his'... which IS everything, by the way.

Yes, there are limits to the metaphor (there always are). But it's pretty close, isn't it? What if the recipient were to hang her head in shame saying, "I'm just not good enough. I don't deserve this," cautiously tip-toeing past the bungalows, insisting on sleeping in a storage room for fear of angering the Giver? What would you say to her? Would you want to point that these concerns of hers were missing the point completely? How could you do this without adding to her shame?

Worse, what if she insulted the boat-driver, insisting on a canoe - and upon arriving, exhausted, demanded her heavy luggage, making multiple trips back and forth to the storage room. Tired from hauling her own baggage, crabby and joyless... because she feared the Giver instead of enjoying His gifts? Wouldn't you want to gently explain she's misunderstanding Him and he's dying to really have her KNOW him for who he is?

Worst... what if she never got on the plane in the first place? What if pride over-ruled the fun factor? I've been that slave. No more though... Where are you? Bungalow? Storage room? Watching others board the plane? Anyone wanna go on a trip?

8 comments:

Swirlingeddy said...

I was there. No descriptions or pictures can do it justice. It was definitely the closest metaphor for heaven that I've experienced. I don't think -V- explicitly mentioned - it was Bora Bora. It makes Hawaii look like Cleveland. No offense to any friends in Hawaii. Or Cleveland. It was paradise.

I love how you showed the parallel with the grace we experience from God. I felt that so much at the time, and I relived it when I read your post. The generosity is so breathtaking, you just have to accept it and have fun. You can't even do the thing where you make a show of taking out your wallet and offering to pay, argue a little bit, and then end up letting the other pay. Not even close. I love how, in your post, grace should make us, not self-deprecating in an unhealthy way, but freely enjoying. Is the chief end of man to glorify God and ENJOY him forever, or to walk around making sure we feel bad because we don't deserve what he's given us?

Amazing post. You are an artist and a wonder.

zcoffeegirl said...

Yes, you are an artist and a wonder. Beautiful metaphor. I think I'm starting to get it. Thank you.

zcoffeegirl said...

One more thought...it is a form of pride to not accept with a fully thankful, joyful heart. If you would've accepted the gift, yet felt the need to pay them back, or to act a certain way because of the gift, it would be more about yourself. But, the fact that you could accept it, be humbled by the generosity and lavishness of the gift (is that a word?), and enjoy it, that is the best response. True humility.

So, take that to our parenting question..how do you teach that to your children? Through daily life..here are some examples.

To our three year old when she gets off her special ed. bus...and as I tuck her into nap time..I say..."I missed you. I'm so glad that you are home. I love you. It's so good to have you home." I say the same thing every day.

To our 7th grader who dreads going to school....I sent him an email telling him that God loves him, has him at this school for a reason, that He is there with him, and listens to him as he cries out to God all day long. He's there with you. He will never leave you."

It's giving them all the messages we can about His love. His plans for their good. It's about not shaming them when they mess up. The words, the tone, the facial expressions that we use, the gestures, they all add up and the hope is that they point to the Father as Abba. Not judge.

Random thoughts..I'm not even drinking coffee. :)

Love you, girl.

-V- said...

coffeegirl: "It is a form of pride..." I so agree. Thom Rutledge calls a similar concept 'negative arrogance' - the refusal to move away from unhealthy self-deprecation ( for us, into Grace). I like his term a lot. For me, thinking of it that way has potential to add to the 'should' though ("I SHOULD or MUST stop being prideful"); it can trigger my 'DO' reflex. I still think it's true though.

Katie R. said...

Great message. I'm learning and getting it.

Bren said...

What wonderful word pictures! Wow!

LadyD said...

Damn you are good!
Can I say Damn?
Probably Not. Oops~
Whatever job you are doing now you must quit. You need to be a motivational speaker or a Bible professor or something major.
Are you a PK? You should teach a bible study at church for women. You are so insightful and so gifted.
When I read your post all I could think is:
"I wanna go!"
"I wanna go!"
Think I need a vacation.
Oh Ya. I forgot this is a metaphor we are reading.
So in that case. I think I am on the steps, about 3 up, almost ready to get on the plane with you guys. L.

Pam said...

Wonderfully said.


I am ready to go.